We are whiplashed between an arrogant overestimation of ourselves and a senile underestimation of ourselves. – Parker Palmer
I think what scares me the most is success (because things will change that are out of my control), and the second thing that scares me senseless is thinking that I will never be able to grasp that success (and then nothing will ever change). It comes down to wanting to maintain your comfort level in the mundane and striving to move yourself from ordinary to extraordinary. Of course, that all depends on what your definition of success is.
Mine is quite a bit different from the dictionary’s definition.
What prompted this change of mood from my previous post of complaining about the hot summer weather?
I was watching Courtney Martin give a talk on TedTalks. Her talk “Courtney Martin: Reinventing Feminism”, was definitely inspiring and gave me a lot of food for thought. (http://www.ted.com/talks/courtney_martin_reinventing_feminism.html)
To sum it up, and possibly give you a few things to think about, I’d like to outline the three paradoxes she talked about.
Paradox 1: Rejecting the past and then promptly reclaiming it.
Paradox 2: Sobering up about our smallness and maintaining faith in our Greatness.
Paradox 3: Aiming to succeed wildly and being fulfilled by failing really well.
She then goes on to tell everyone that we should do a few things: Embrace the Paradox, Act in the face of overwhelm, and Love people well. Very wise words, in my opinion.
I wish I could thank her in person for the wonderful talk she gave. The website that she co-edits: Feministing.com, is actually well received and I enjoyed paroozing the site and reading different articles.
I can’t say that I am the standard textbook version of a feminist. Probably far from it. I believe in gender equality and the greatness we can achieve if both male and female and every shade of gender in between worked together and supported one another fully. I believe that if a woman wants to stay home and take care of her family instead of work a 9-5, she shouldn’t be labeled with an outdated and inappropriately used stereotype. Same goes for if she is the CEO of a company. Same goes for men. In my mind its really just that simple. You don’t have to be a loud activist to hold the same views; and labels only get you so far.
That being said, I hope you – my lovely readers – will go check it out and tell me what you think in the comment section below.
If you have any other links or lectures and whatnot that you would like to share – please do! I would love to check it out!
Hugs, Kisses, Love for all,